[轉載]我的“婚姻存摺”

[轉載自深圳Times歲月雜誌2008.01第六期]

這本日積月累的存摺,再貧窮的婚姻也不害怕透支.

我的“婚姻存摺”是出嫁那天,媽媽遞到我手上的.當時, 我以為會是一大筆錢, 打開一看發現只有1000元. 我用失望的眼神看著媽媽, 媽媽卻笑著說: “這是我特意為你們辦理的 ‘婚姻存摺’, 以后每逢值得紀念的日子, 都可以存一筆錢, 等到老的時候, 裡面除了錢, 還有無限的幸福…”

當時, 我對母親這份心思不以為然, 倒是丈夫記在了心上. 婚後沒多久, 他就先後存了兩個500元, 一個是因為他升職了, 第二個是因為我手術治愈出院. 當時我嘴上笑他無聊, 其實心裡甜蜜無比, 畢竟他把我的健康也當作一件讓他感到幸福的事. 

沒過多久, 我懷孕了, 這一次, 我足足往裡面存了2000元. 但很快, 我們開始有了爭吵和冷漠﹔孩子出生帶來的快樂是短暫的, 洗不完的尿布、餵不完的奶, 進一步加劇了我們感情的惡化. 而那本婚姻存摺像被遺忘了, 寂寞地躺在抽屜角落, 上面的數字久未見漲.

我們鬧離婚的時候, 媽媽說, 你們先把存摺上面的錢花光了再離吧, 雖然錢不多, 但是你們共同的財產. 於是, 我第一次取了1000元, 然後拎著幾件心儀已久的衣服離開商場時, 我又回去對售貨小姐說: “對不起, 我不買了, 請你退回我剛才付給你的錢.”

也許當時的局面窘迫極了, 但我腦海裡想到的是那1000元婚姻積蓄的來源: 他是個害羞的男人, 但曾在街頭大聲地對我說 “我愛你”, 我為此存下100元﹔他記得我的生日、鞋號、密碼及最怕的事, 我為此在生日那天存下300元﹔他對女人有風度, 也有距離, 不給暗戀他的女下屬任何機會, 我為此存下500元…啊, 這1000元裡就有這麼多的幸福積累, 再看看婚姻存摺上的兩萬多元, 我的眼睛忽然就有些濕潤起來.

晚上回到家, 我把存摺交給他, 說: “趕緊花吧, 花光了好離婚. 第二天晚上, 他把存摺遞到我手上, 我打開一看, 發現反而多了1000元. 他說: “那上面的每一元錢都記錄著我們走過的歷程, 我第一次發覺原來是這樣的愛你, 索性又存進了1000元.”

我們從此又和好如初了.

還是媽媽說得對, 以愛情的名義為婚姻開個戶口, 把夫妻間所有快樂的、幸福的、浪漫的事, 通通存進銀行. 有了這本日積月累的婚姻存摺, 即使是再貧窮的婚姻,也決不害怕透支.

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看完這篇文章, 很感動. 想要跟大家分享. 相信我不會從母親手上得到這樣的東西. 但有機會的話, 我會很想這樣做.

4 thoughts on “[轉載]我的“婚姻存摺”

  1. Hi Marz,

    I think I emailed you back in April or May, but I haven’t heard from you. I know you been very busy traveling. Just want to ask if you have any good restaurants recommendation around downtown Toronto. I heard Toronto has the best Chinese food and there are so many to pick from. It would be great if you can suggest a few. We’ll be staying in downtown. Thanks.

    Joanne

  2. Hi Joanne! yes! I remember you of course! Gosh… I’m so sorry about that… I was gonna provide some suggestions and then… I left the country for backpacking, then was busy packing up and fairwell in May… then flew to Shanghai in June… been staying in Shenzhen and Hong Kong these days.

    Hope you ladies are having a good time in Toronto. There are some pretty good Chinese restaurants in Toronto, but most of the ones that I like are located in the North…
    e.g. Casa Imperial Fine Chinese Cuisine 名門金宴 (near Steeles/Warden – a bit more expensive… inside an European style building), Galaxy Chinese Cuisine 喜福樓 is another one I like in Richmond Hill.

    As for downtown, you should have heard of Lai Wah Heen 麗華軒 (most expensive I’d say – compared to all other dim sum places), Rol San 龍笙盞 (College/Spadina – pretty consistent), Bright Pearl 明珠 (good experience last time, but some find it so-so). These are the safer bets I’d say. Let me know how it goes. Hope you’ll find this useful 🙂

  3. Yu wei! How have you been? Yah… it’s a big change. Hope I’ll meet you one day in Toronto/HK/Shanghai. 🙂

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